Celebrating femininity
I’ve heard myself saying, “oh I am not sure why I don’t have a lot of female friends” “Guys make much cooler friends” blah blah blah more times than I can actually remember. And I used to consider, “ Oh you are not like other girls” as a compliment. (WHAT A SHAME)
This society conditions us right from the beginning, and makes us believe that girls are bitchy, they’re mean, guys are more selfless or make better friends, and what not. It also inures us to run away from women, or feminine as if they’re bad words. How crazy I was all these years, to simply not love or trust someone wholeheartedly from my very own gender.
Yes, guys do make cool friends. They teach us about football, correct our maths or ask us to calm the fuck down when we’re emotionally charged. But, it takes only a woman to help you navigate through the different phases- the ups and downs, so effortlessly. And that’s why female friendships are priceless.
Your male friends would get mad at you, if you tell them, “ Oh I like both FC Barcelona and Real Madrid”, but only your female friend will understand why it’s okay to love Messi and Marco Asensio or Toni Kroos at the same time.
No one can empathize better than a female friend and get you back on the right track. It’s so important to associate yourself with strong people. And all women are strong.
Because to err is to be human and we learn as we grow, I am still a WIP feminist with a lot of failings. Took me this long to realize, but never taking it for granted.
It took me years to accept that being emotional is okay. Being feminine is okay. Being heartbroken is okay.
You cannot miss out on all the good parts fearing hurt because that’s how life goes on. All we need are love, experiences (good/bad/ugly), and most importantly, people to count on when life gets hard.
And happy to report, that today, when I don’t feel like myself or am in a sane mindset, the first 4 people that I would want to call so that I can acknowledge my emotions freely, without any judgment, and align my thoughts are all women.
And, it’s not just about today, but I want to celebrate every woman in my life, who has helped me shape my thoughts and made me the person that I have become today.
